Happy Halloween!

I went to a party on the 28th without the spousal unit. He was to go to another party with "the kids" downtown, but I have not wanted to be part of that crowd. When I received the invitation from a friend at work I jumped at it, and mostly had a great time.

Guys from have a new band and they were playing some great music. The only time I felt as a "one" was during the slow songs when I didn't have a partner to dance with. All I could think of was "get used to this... this is life with out a spouse!" sigh. That's the tough part. The rest... was great fun. A dance partner would be good thing.

What's your favourite Halloween groaner?

What do you call a witch who lives at the beach?
A sand-witch.

Why did the ghost go into the bar?
For the Boos. ( particularly for the wine-y kind of boos!)

Why did the skeleton go disco dancing?
To see the boogy man yeah! do a little dance... sing a little song...

13 on Thursday! Dancing like a banshee!

So... ENOUGH with the Yer Cheatin Heart-country western- slit my wrist-I am soooo sad-cut my heart out- kinda songs.

I gave the Tech Blonde a hard time about her online music collection. Here's a few 'happy" kinda songs that make ME feel good. note to self... buy a freakin MP3 player for the car... play these ALL the time... they are fun and worth a listen. Put on the high heels and DANCE!

Ummm T.B.? got any castposts for ANY of these for me to beg from ya?
And why aren't my links linking? I am sooooooo blonde?

http://www.scissorsisters.com
1. Take Your Mama

2. I don't feel like dancing......( yes... you DO! )

http://www.sting.com/
3. Brand New Day

http://www.ledzeppelin.com/site_flash/
4. Whole Lotta Love..... ( I am a TRUE rocker of the 70s!)

http://www.beegeesonline.com/
5.Stayin Alive

http://www.nellyfurtado.com
6. Man Eater
7. Powerless

http://www.amysky.com/index.asp
8. Phenomenal Woman.... every woman's anthem!

http://www.dilanarox.com
9. Mother Mother

http://www.celtae.ca/
10. Killer Cod.... ( it was better when Dana played the fiddle!)

http://www.theb52s.com/
11. Love Shack

http://www.blackeyedpeas.com
12. Pump It!

http://www.eurythmics.com/
13. TIE! Sisters are doing it for themselves.... and I don't know why but..
I need a man!

In the immortal words of Wayne and Garth.... party on dudes!

Back to our regularly scheduled spousal ennuie.... another time! But counselling was good this week.

Getting over it... a Sunday kinda song.

I still like the song... though NOT feelin it nearly as badly these days... Feelin pretty good really. But what a great song.
Enjoy
Thanks to the Tech Blonde .... once again!

It was either this one or the Nick Lachey song.. "I don't hate you any more..."
It's a joke people... laugh with me... really!



Powered by Castpost

13 reasons to move a blog .... on Thursday

1. Well... it's all wonky and so by moving it and changing name and URL perhaps the wonkiness will go away.
2. What the heck... not a lot of readers, so why not make doubly difficult and change the name of the blog
3. It's become soooo popular Blogger is worried I am going to crash their network, so change the name and see if people can find you for all this riveting stuff. ( can you see me roll my eyes?)
4. The old blog is not representative of who I am any more... so needed to find a new title and URL.
5. The rebel teen found the blog and has been mentionning it at random times... usually when I ask her to do something... kitchen clean up, quiet time, etc - ummm need to move it.
6. Rebel teen told the Tweeny about the site... hmmm this is getting serious- need to move it.
7. Wondering if Spouse now knows... need to move it
8. So much time on my hands may as well spend time moving things around
9. A certain blonde tech needs a challenge... ask her to try and fix the wonkiness
1o. A certain blonde tech needs more of a challenge... what the hell... ask her to move the ENTIRE blog!
11. Moved it so I wouldn't have to delete it
12. Need to keep writing, and need to keep posting...so change the name ... to protect.... well... me!
13. No blog..... no news! And news is what keeps people connected and sending ME emails!

Don't worry full story on points 5-7 coming soon. This is to get you back into reading mode.

13 on Thursday Today's topic....

Why am I Procrastinating? And other thoughts.

1. It's a separation after 23 years of marriage.... it ain't easy! yes but it's been thought about for AT LEAST 2 years now.

2. It's just easier not to think about it. THEN he does something really assinine , thoughtless, without regard, and I think.. "really girl... this is ENOUGH!"

3. The kids... okay.. rebel teen not really a kid and the tweeny... well.. this can't be healthy really. I know this.

4. Christmas is coming.... oh yeah... didn't I say last year... NOT another one like this?!

5. The paperwork. Still working on financials... oy!

6. The house.... It's always the house

7. Better the devil you know.... ( you gotta be kidding!)

8. He might put up a fight... well... he's gonna do that anyway

9. Haven't found a lawyer I like. well... really... does any one really LIKE their lawyer??!

10. What will the neighbours think? who cares... really... half the wives on the block have kicked thier spouses out!

11.

I got nothin. ..... any one? Feel free.

Thanks giving on a beautiful sunny October Long Weekend

I stayed at a friend's last night. She had another friend over who was going though a marital crisis too. Although I guess I am past the crisis mode. We drank a lot of wine and I couldn't drive back into the city.

The comment in yesterday's blog is something my counsellor told me too. I care too much and I try to fix. Dear friend said the same.

Sigh...

She also told me that he who had been my friend was really a diversion keeping me from what I had to do and decide. I suspect that too is accurate.

The rebel daughter returned. She couldn't find a place to live. I should have stayed home yesterday but I needed my time to process the news of male friend. Well... we will have to change how the rebel lives at home. She came, she saw and left and didn't come home last night. I cannot continue living the way it was before she left. And the spouse her father is going to have come on board with me for the time remaining in this relationship of ours.

Clearly many things need fixing here.

Yet... it is Thanksgiving Day I have a healthy family. We are living in the best place in the world. I am told I am a vibrant woman who should have a wonderful life. I am truly thankful for what I have. My "true" friends are indeed "true" yet they are not backing away from telling me the truth and getting me to "buck up!"

Thanks be given to all of you who read, support and are my "true" pals. I love you all.

Silly Sunday - a tale

 King Arthur and the Witch:

Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighbouring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur's youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer; he would be put to death.

The question?....What do women really want? Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man, and to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch's proposition to have an answer by year's end.
He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the priests, the wise men and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer

Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have the answer. But the price would be high; as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged.

The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but he would have to agree to her price first.

The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table and Arthur's closest friend!

Young Arthur was horrified. She was hunchbacked and hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc. He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life.

He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden; but Lancelot, learning of the proposal, spoke with Arthur. He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur's life and the preservation of the Round Table.

Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered Arthur's question thus:

What a woman really wants, she answered....is to be in charge of her own life.

Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth and that Arthur's life would be spared.

And so it was, the neighbouring monarch granted Arthur his freedom and Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding.

The honeymoon hour approached and Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But, what a sight awaited him. The most beautiful woman he had ever seen lay before him on the bed. The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened.  The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, she would henceforth, be her horrible deformed self only half the time and the beautiful maiden the other half.

Which would he prefer? Beautiful during the day....or night?

Lancelot pondered the predicament. During the day, a beautiful woman to show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch? Or, would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day, but by night, a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous intimate moments?

What would YOU do?

What Lancelot chose is below. BUT....make YOUR choice

NOW  

     DONT                  

    CHEAT

Noble Lancelot said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself.

Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life. Now....what is the moral to this story?

Scroll down

The moral is..... If you don't let a woman have her own way.... Things are going to get ugly

13 things I WANT on Thursday!

I saw a counsellor yesterday as advised by my MD.  She told me that I had a couple of things to work on based on what she heard. 

My greatest strength and my greatest weakness is that I am loyal to those who are close to me... friends, partner, colleagues.  It works for me most times, but it has clearly worked against me lately on too many fronts concerning men.

 

She asked me to think about what I want, rather than trying to be nice, and fix things for everyone else and worrying about what anyone else wants.

 

What do I want?  Well... here are 13 things to start with.

 

1.  I want a partner/husband who thinks about me, instead of about himself when it comes time to do anything at home.

2.  I want flowers.  Real ones, lots of them, frequently.  And none of that silk or plastic ( I mean really!) shit either!

3.  I want to go out to restaurants where you get dressed up, where children are frowned upon -  I am tired of going to bars to hear the same old same old celtic music played by children whose parents are my age!

4..  I want to go to foreign movies with my partner not to animated movies and teen crap always with my children.

5.  I want my friends, our neighbours, and my colleagues to be at the very least treated with respected when they are in the presence of the spouse.

6 I want my children to treat their mother with respect and to listen when she speaks.

7.  I want the children's father to support thier mother in decision making and no rude remarks made about mother's decision within ear shot.

8. I want all the renovation projects in the house  finalized before anything new is started.

9. I want my freakin computer fixed.  ( might explain the blogger problem here... or perhaps not)

10.  I want to have dinner parties at least once every couple of months with my contemporaries and not "the kids"  See point 3.

11. I would like to have a savings account that reflects the two income family that we are supposed to be.

12.  I would like the "man of house" to lock the damn doors every night instead of waiting to be asked if it's done.  What's with that?  You're last up, check the security zones man!  

13.  I want a Mustang GT  the 24 valve, big engine job... really... I want the new Shelby.... but the GT will suffice.   I believe I am about to star in my own midlife crisis....

 

She crosses her arms, nods her heads, and says... "yeah!  take THAT! 

 

A Sunday Silly - Fair Trade Chocolate

A new category.  Why not!  Feel free to contribute something if I can't find just the right bit for the day!   There ARE days....

 

 

Sally was driving home from one of her business trips in Northern Arizona when she saw an elderly Navajo woman walking on the side of the road. As the trip was a long and quiet one, she stopped  the car and asked the Navajo woman if she would like a ride. With a silent nod of thanks, the woman got into the car.

Resuming the journey, Sally  tried in vain to make a bit of small talk with the Navajo woman. The old woman just sat silently, looking intently at everything she saw, studying every little detail, until she noticed a white bag on the seat  next to Sally.

"What in bag?" asked the old woman.

Sally looked down at the white bag and said, "It's a box of chocolates. I got it for my husband".

" The Navajo woman was silent for another moment or two. Then speaking with the quiet wisdom of an elder, she said: "Good trade."