Cuz I can't think of five!
1. So why is it that the kid who NEVER remembers to take a message for me, yells at the top of her voice when I walked in the house one evening this week - "guy from Sears called about the estimate you wanted on the windows. Call him back." SU of course is right there and has to ask, "windows? what are you doing about the windows? We don't have money for windows." sigh...
I am not getting into my game plan so I told him it must be some deal they are running and must have got my name from their database of clients. Not sure how well I pulled that one off.
2. I hear the SU on the computer at night... usually after midnight when the rest of us are in bed. It's like he's sneaking online. Gotta wonder if he's back up to his ole pornographic tricks. I mean as far as I know, he ain't gettin' any and is fixing his jollies or something. I am wondering. Might need to figure out how to try and track him again. Though it's not as easy as it was the first time I did it. hmmm I wonder if it's worth heading down to fix myself midnight snacks and see what the deal is when I sneak in on him. Could be entertaining.
3. Rebel has kind of hit a wall this week. She read her heart transplant manual from cover to cover and I believe the reality of it all has hit her. She went into a depression this week. Not surprising at all really. It just took a lot longer than I had expected. The boyfriend was very good about talking it through with her. I told her we could take her to talk to any number of people on our list - but she doesn't want to do that yet. She told me she had a good cry and is starting to feel better. She didn't go to school all week, though she finished a whole whack of work at home. She won't cry in front of me or let me hug her and hold her. Damn kid is too tough for her own good. but then again, she knows I will end up crying right along with her. And she hates that!
4. Guess who has to spend money on the SU for Christmas? Of course I do. The girls want to get him gifts. They know what they want to buy, so I of course will spend the money so they can feel good. Gritting my teeth while I do it. Rebel is still a little upset that she used her own money from working last year to buy her dad a really nice shirt. He hasn't worn it once. Didn't put it on at all. What kind of dad is that? He could have easily worn it to work, but chose not to. Who does that?
He didn't open the CDs we bought him last year either. They were still in the shrink wrap. So I took them back to the CD store and traded them in as *used* and bought a couple of CDs for myself and the girls instead.
He really doesn't get what means to behave and act like a dad.
Not at all.
5 comments:
1. Well of course that would be the time to yell - in front of SU. If he is all that clueless, he probably bought the misdirection.
2. Midnight snack, Ha! Are you sure you want to catch him all riled up? LOL
3. Poor Rebel. She is always in my prayers. so after a decade or two of telling guys they need to be more like women and let their feelings out because its healthy, why do women seem to feel the need to keep it in and act like men? That just adds to stress and bad health. If you are in the arms of someone who cares you should be able to let go and be comforted and if you both end up crying what is the harm in that? (and yes, having had to be the stable emotional center of a couple of traumatic situations I know there is a time and a place and a need for that (it is expected of dads I think) but there is also a place for vulnerability)
4. You may be gritting your teeth but focus on helping the girls not what they are doing. He is still their dad even if he is a fecking eejit. Evidenced by how he treated last years gifts. Gah! <-shakes his head and shuffles away
1) Kids! What to do? What to do? Of course she would yell when the SU is right there. I think you covered well for being caught so off-guard.
2) I vote for a midnight snack. And don't make any noise until the second before you hit the room. Then get a really strong drink to help cope with whatever horror you have encountered and report back to us asap. LOL!
3) Hug her for me. It has taken her much longer for this to hit her than I had expected. I hope she will be ready soon to talk with people who have been where she is and are now living good lives. I like that boyfriend. He sounds better and better every time you post a tidbit about him.
4) I gave up on the presents thing but I am divorced already. And I didn't really give up on it as much as I just told the chickenshit that I was SO done funding presents for him as well as for myself and since he did not see fit to give the kids money to buy me gifts he was now responsible for giving them monies to buy his own gifts. He was not amused but sometimes life is just not fair, is it??? The poor dear.
In spite of the rotten job the SU is doing, he is indeed still their dad and as long as they want to do something for him you should probably help them out. Not extravagantly though. He is not deserving of that for sure.
Happy Friday!
~ b
LOL!!1 I might try that Blondie... Hey SU... hand over some cash so the girls can buy you Christmas gifts LOL good one!
Who knows... he's probably thinking same thing about me too!
And as always... thoughts and prayers are so much appreciated.
HUGS to you both!
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So how was the midnight snack?
LMAO Rudy!!!
The SU plays hockey late Friday nights. I was wiped and went to bed looooong before he got home. Didn't hear a thing. I'll have to try for that midnight snack another evening when I hear rustlings in the kitchen. LOL
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word ver.. shthd with a j in there.
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